Visibility: Overcoming the Fear of Being Seen
The Challenge of Visibility
As I continue to grow my business, one recurring theme I see in both my clients and myself is visibility—truly allowing ourselves to be seen, to express our voices, and to take up space in the world.
Many creative entrepreneurs struggle with the fear of being seen. Some of these fears stem from personal experiences, while others are deeply ingrained in cultural and societal conditioning—particularly for women.
I remember, as a child, visiting my grandmother’s house with my mother. We were not allowed to speak—it was "adults' time." While times have changed, the fear of speaking up, being seen, and stepping into our power still lingers for many of us. However, I firmly believe that we owe it to ourselves—and the world—to push past these fears and step into our full potential.
Why Do We Fear Visibility?
1. Fear of Being Judged
When we put ourselves out there, we risk criticism. Some people may disagree with us, dismiss us, or judge us. The fear of being misunderstood, ridiculed, or rejected can be paralysing. Many entrepreneurs fear being seen as "too much" or "not enough."
But the truth is, not everyone will resonate with us—and that’s okay. Our work is to align with the right people, not to please everyone.
2. Fear of Failing Publicly
"What if I mess up? What if I can’t deliver?" Many people hesitate to step forward due to a deep-seated fear of making mistakes.
This fear often originates in childhood—times when we were shamed for getting things wrong, or when perfection was expected. But mistakes are part of growth. We don’t have to be perfect to be impactful—we just have to be authentic.
3. Fear of Losing Control
Becoming more visible means opening ourselves up to other people’s opinions, and we can’t control how they will respond.
However, I always remind clients: What others think of you is their business, not yours. People’s opinions shift constantly, so why let them dictate your journey?
How to Step into Visibility with Confidence
1. Start Small and Build Gradually
You don’t need to take a massive leap—start where you are. Maybe visibility means designing your first business card, creating a website, or sharing a post online. The key is to take that first step.
2. Find a Safe Space to Practice
If you’re nervous about putting yourself out there, start in an environment that feels safe. If you want to give a talk, begin with a small group. If social media visibility is your goal, engage with a trusted online community before expanding. Growth happens at the intersection of comfort and challenge.
3. Get the Right Support
Support is crucial. Surround yourself with people who uplift and encourage you—mentors, allies, and friends who can remind you of your strengths and abilities. In my work with female entrepreneurs, I’ve seen how a supportive community can be a game-changer.
4. Reframe Visibility as an Inside Job
Often, visibility issues are not external—they are internal. In my groups, I’ve seen women uncover deeply personal reasons behind their resistance to being seen. Once we understand the root of our fears, we can begin to work through them.
5. Take Small, Consistent Steps
You don’t have to make a grand statement or transform overnight. Small, steady steps create momentum.
If writing feels safer than speaking, start by publishing a blog.
If public speaking is intimidating, begin with small group discussions.
If social media visibility scares you, post once a week and build confidence over time.
Stepping into Your Power
Visibility is a journey, and like all journeys, it begins with a single step. The more we practice being seen, the easier it becomes.
Ask yourself: What is one small, achievable step I can take today to increase my visibility? And then, take it.
You have something valuable to share with the world. Step forward—your voice, your work, and your presence matter.